The Alternative Valentine Day Plan for Singletons...

Anti Valentine's Day Plans...

After spending 7 Valentines Days on my own, there is absolutely no reason for this to be a depressing time if you are single! Here are a couple of my suggestions to improve your mood and get through the rest of the day...

1. Buy yourself the biggest bunch of flowers you can afford - they don't have to be red roses (they're common anyway)
2. Buy yourself chocolates of your choice (biggest box available)
3. Buy your self Pink Fizz (Cava is fine) put in Fridge for later
4. Spend the whole day being totally selfish and self indulgent - it's the one day of the year you are allowed to do this without feeling guilty.
5. Pull out all your soppy Love/Romantic type CD's and play as many as you can whilst singing along and changing the lyrics to something more appropriate!
6. While searching through your CD's - you must find for later... 'I'm Every Woman' by Chaka Khan, 'Charlies Angels' by Destiny's Child and other such classics. Also - download 'Single Ladies' by Beyonce - this track is crucial!
7. Phone all the people in your life you love - and tell them :)
8. Go to Blockbusters and hire Bridget Jones Diary - this is purely to watch later so you can remind yourself that your single life is far more interesting than hers.
9. Text all your single friends and invite them round at 7pm wearing something pink.
10.Enjoy a wonderful evening and have some one bring you chinese, pizza, curry etc, drink bubbles, dance to Single Ladies, and enjoy being alive and celebrate being single!

Have a great day!

TC x

Being Single with Flu...

It’s been exactly a month since my last post which is not good. I never intended such a long break and as all the books tell me you’re supposed to write first thing in the morning, everday – I haven’t got off to a good start. But, bear with me – I’m a beginner Blogger and hope to get better at this. Many thanks to all of you who have said such good things about this site, and made me glad I found the time to get it up and running. And congratulations to Boobyloobs who won the Champagne for November! Another bottle being given away in December - check our the home page for details.

I know this site is all about the positive side of being single, but staying positive with full blown Flu has been somewhat challenging! However, as any single Mum will know, life goes on with or without a temperature and as both my Teenagers have full on schedules and social lives, I have done the usual school/college/dance/drama/football runs mostly in my pyjamas under a full length fur coat (God, what would I do without that coat?) and Ugg boots. I have fallen asleep in at least 3 car parks – woken up once by a Teacher to tell me my son was in detention which was great news as that gave me an extra 20 minutes to snooze.

Being single and sick can be lonely and it could have been quite easy to feel sorry for myself with no-one to make me Soup, Tea, bring me Medicine, Flowers & Magazines or even to ask if I was feeling better. However, the positives are…No-one to moan about the heating being on full, the bed not being made, the overflowing washing basket, And of course no-one to see un-washed hair and washed out skin and minging pyjamas!

Anyway – back to normal (well as normal as my life is likely to get) juggling 50 things at once to get ready for Christmas and making sure my diary is filling up with nice places to go and nice people to see. If you’re on your own I think it’s really important to decide at the beginning of December to try your hardest to enjoy the festive season, or it could be a very miserable month. This will be my 6th ‘Single Christmas’ and it’s not all bad :)

Suddenly Single Life... Day 1 !

Ok… I feel the need to start this blog with a confession. I am not ‘suddenly-single’! I have been single for 6 years, 10 months and about 16 days actually. During that time I have hit hundreds of high and lows… of which there were many which has made me fairly qualified to talk about life ‘on the single shelf’. Very soon after the break-up of my marriage, I realized that it was really very simple – there were only two choices… up or down. Down was not an option as I was already as far ‘down’ as you could possibly get so up was the only way. I developed both short and long term ‘plans’ to drag me up from the depths of depression and looking back, all these experiences have made me the person I am today. I may not be 50% of a couple but I have lived to tell the tale and although I’ve laughed and cried (oceans of tears) along the way, I now truly believe that being single is not the end of the world. It’s just a phase and we all have choices and resources to make that phase as good as it can be. I decided to create suddenly-single because I wanted to try and help others who had been in as desperate a place as I was, and to try and bring some element of humour back into the lives of very sad suddenly singletons. I know there are thousands of you who will have stories to tell, and messages of hope and inspiration that will help anyone who has been dumped, ditched or divorced and I really hope you will share these on this site. It’s not absolutely essential to have a ‘partner’ to live Happily Ever After….live for today and you never know… tomorrow could be a whole lot better!